Almost 10 years ago, I made my first trip to Latin America. Up to this point, I was by no means a light traveler. In fact, I spent the majority of my adult life in airports and hotels. I was platinum member a several airlines. I flew first class almost exclusively. I always got upgraded to the business floor of the hotel, and was able to kick-back on the Concierge Lounge before and after work. I was a business travel… a road warrior. Airports were not an initimidating maze of commmotion. I had them all figured out.
I also had visited over 18 different countries and have visited all but two continents – Antarctic and Africa. I suppose you can throw those two on my bucket-list of places to visit before I am dead.
In 2005, I decided that I had had enough. America was boring. My endless pattern of flying to work and coming home to nothing much more than a pile of mail got very dull. On top of that, I was just sick and tired of dating American women. After dating some foreign women in my travels, they all just seems like a bunch of cold materialistic tyrranical bitches. A gave up on all illusions of having a normal married life in America with a house, a dog and 2.5 children.
I also got tired of American politics, consumerism and the incredibly slippy corporate ladder. You climb up two rungs one year. Then you slide down three the next year. I also become bored with hearing topics like feminism, gay rights and racism. If you don’t like your standard of life in the US. Then, why don’t you just try living somewhere else.
If you are black and feeling oppressed in the US, try moving back to Africa, to learn about the kind of freedoms and civil liberties you will have. And if you are black and gay, trying movign to those countries in Africa, where being gay will get you thrown in prison for life. Or, if you are a woman, and feel you don’t have equal opportunities in US, try moving to Latin America and getting a job. You will find out quickly, that the men working around you are thinking of nothing more than dropping your skirt and bending you over.
If you are a single male, why not try living in Latin America. I tried 8 years ago. I’m still here. Since then, I have learned that Latin women and American women are two polar opposites. Latin women still enjoy being “women” whereas American women really want to be “men.”
Let’s put it simple and clear. Latin women value the family, over career and money. I think in the past 50 years, American women are putting the career first. I’m still shocked that women find it totally acceptable to have an abortion just because it puts a litte fork on their career path. Latin women bite the bullet. To them its illegal and considered murder.
Thus, there is a huge social conundrum in America that has resulted in gradual destabilization of the traditional family. Oh, I forgot, we still have the “modern family”.
Sorry. I disagree that having same sex parents is some sort of avantage for the family. I also don’t view at as the new normal.
Americans have become overly desensitized to the reality that exists in almost very other country. What reality? That we are all just human beings and trying to find a way to survive and find happiness. If you are still hanging out with the same crowd for thirty years, watching the same TV lineups, eating at the same restaurants, drinking at the same bar, and crapping in the same old toilets, you are not really experiencing life. You are just swimming laps. Back and forth. Back and forth. From things that you are totally familiar with and accustomed too.
Traveling and living abroad has given me a new perspective on life. I look back at myself and American society and see things through a totally different lense. I find it ridiculous how Americans need everything to be convenient and comfortable. They automatically assume everyone else should speak English. They also assume that because they are American, they should travel in some kind of a cultural bubble, that prevents them from smelling foul odors, or seeing real poverty, or getting a speeding ticket in the rental car.
This is NOT America
Most Americans who decide to live in Latin America don’t live much differently than Latin immigrants in America. They tend to stick together and live in American communities. They are also not viewed very highly be the local people. In Costa Rica, most upper and middle class “Ticos” view Americans as con artists and whore mongers. It doesn’t help that of the 2 million tourists which arrive, about 10% of those are sex tourists, whose specific purpose in Costa Rica is to pay young girls for sex.
However, if you are a gringa, and subscribe to this blog, don’t judge them so harshly. Many of these men who are sex tourists, fall into the trap, after being dragged through the divorce gauntlet by their ex wives.
I have a whole new perspective on myself and my country. I am a patriot and still pay taxes. I also still travel back to the US when business calls for it. I rooted for the American team in the World Cup. I watch baseball. And for some crazy stupid reason, I’m still a Cleveland Browns fan.
One thing that I have become increasingly aware of is that the American dream no longer exists. “Give us your poor, tired and huddled mass.” That shit doesn’t work anymore. You cannot continue doing that, and at the same time sell-out your entire economy to foreign countries. You will be left a lot of poor, uneducated people living off the government – and – no engine to fuel jobs and business growth which provides the tax revenue to feed the social programs. We have almost outsourced our entire economy to China and India. The former also is America’s largest creditor and also our biggest political foe.
China has the US by the balls. Russia doesn’t even seem to give two shits about us.
I have decided that I’m not moving back to the US until things change. I want to real job growth and economic opportunity. I want see more traditional family values. Let’s try to go few years without a school shooting or racial explosions like Ferguson. Someone needs to steer the ship on a different course.